Sometimes, when a couple have been swinging for a while, one partner decides that it isn’t for them after all. This can be a disappointing situation for the one who still wants to swing and, in my experience, that partner will often put pressure on the one who doesn’t want to swing to continue with the lifestyle (or hobby, if you like).
The fact is, putting pressure on a partner to swing is never a good idea. Whenever somebody does something simply because the feel they should, the outcome will never be satisfactory for anybody. OK, so maybe you’ll feel that you’ve got your own way and can still enjoy the delights of partner swaps and the likes, but would you really enjoy it knowing that your significant other would rather not be there?
The only thing you can do is try to find out why your partner has lost enthusiasm for swinging? Is there some jealousy involved maybe? Did he or she ever really like swinging or did they simply go along with it to please you?
What’s important is that you have honest and open communication between you and, if after discussing it, it’s clear that swinging is no longer going to be part of your lifestyle, acceptance is the only way forward. After all, there’s more to a relationship than sex (even though sex is, undoubtedly, very important to most couples).
Sadie xxx
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