One of the questions I’m often asked by those who are curious about the swinging lifestyle is what to expect if they decide to visit a swingers’ club.
The problem is, when you ask a question like that, you could just as well be asking “how long is a piece of string?” because there’s no definite answer.
All swingers’ clubs are different. Some cater only for ’soft swingers’, others cater for ’straight swinging’ while others again may cater for a specific fetish. For the sake of this post, I’ll tell you what I’ve experienced as being a red thread that runs through most of the clubs I’ve visited.
On your first visit, you’ll probably be shown around and possibly introduced to some of the regular guests. Some clubs even have a kind of mentor system, where first time visitors are taken hand on by experienced guests so that they don’t end up standing in a corner all evening, not quite knowing what to do. It’s always worthwhile asking about these things when you first contact the club so that you’ll know what to expect when you arrive.
The club’s management should also make sure you understand the rules of the club. By that I mean things like dress code, taking no for an answer, no photographic equipment (more can be found about that here, etc. For a club to run smoothly, it’s important that everybody understands and abides by the rules.
As far as the sex goes, don’t expect to walk into a club and see hoards of writhing bodies on the floor. That isn’t the way it works. You can find more about what to expect by reading my post “Joining A Swingers’ Club“.
My advice is to check the club’s website and ask plenty of questions when you call them. The last thing you want to do, after all, is to turn up in a suit and tie, only to find that everybody else is in smart casual, or vice versa. Knowing how to behave and what to expect makes that first visit so much easier.
Sadie xxx
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