One question I’m regularly asked is:”I’ve signed up for a swingers dating site but what should I write in my ad?”First of all, there’s no standard text I can give you. If there were, all the ads would be the same and that’d be pretty boring, wouldn’t it?

What you need to do is sit down with a pen and paper (yes, that’s those things we used to use before computers became part of our lives) and think about what kind of ad you’d reply to yourself and make notes. What information would you like to see in others’ ads?

• What kind of personality do you have? Outgoing? Shy? Jovial?

• How would you describe your looks? Elegant? Sophisticated? Punk?

• Remember that tall and slim says very little whereas “tall, pale-skinned, small framed vamp” says a whole lot more.

• What kind of sex do you enjoy? What are your limits?

• How do you like to dress?

• What kind of relationship do you want? No-strings? Friendship? Commitment?

• Are you willing to travel? If so, how far?

• Can you accommodate for a night/weekend?

• What’s your marital status? If you have a partner, does he/she swing, too?

Once you’ve decided what you need to write in your ad, take into consideration a few other points.

• DON’T USE CAPITALS. You may think they’ll make your ad stand out but in reality, they’re damned difficult to read and in net language, you’re shouting! Similarly, don’t use coloured text. Just plain old black on white is what most people will be comfortable with.

• Take the time to check your writing for spelling mistakes. Sloppy writing gives a bad impression and you’ll be far less likely to attract responses.

• Be honest! Remember, you’re gonna meet some of these people one day so lying about who you are and what you want is pointless.

That’s it. Take your time and write an ad that others will enjoy reading and you’ll soon be picking and choosing who you do and don’t want to meet.

Good luck and have tons of fun,
Sadie xxx

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