We often hear about what we should do when we visit a swingers club for the first time but today I want to concentrate purely on the things you shouldn’t do.

First of all, don’t be dishonest about who you are or what you situation is. In other words, if you’re 45 and married, don’t say you’re 35 and single. There’s really no point. Nobody cares! Married men and women are just as welcome as singles and, unless you’re visiting a club with an upper age limit, nobody cares how old you are.

Secondly, although maybe this is the most important thing to remember, don’t cross other people’s lines. If you ask somebody to have sex with you and they decline, don’t put any kind of pressure on. Don’t imagine that because you’re in a swingers club everybody will want to have sex with you. They won’t. Also, if you do have sex with somebody, don’t expect them to go along with anything you please. Not everybody likes oral or anal, for example.

It’s important to remember that most swingers won’t want to meet you outside of the club, at least not until they’ve got to know you pretty well. For that reason, there’s no point in asking others for their phone numbers. If you do and they so no, accept it. Some people find it difficult to accept that somebody may be willing to have sex with them but not to give out their phone number. It’s just the way it is. Don’t expect things to change just because you think they ought to.

Last of all, don’t have any expectations before your visit. Whatever you expect, the club will be different and more often than not, a predefined set of expectations will only lead to disappointment. Just go along and enjoy whatever the evening brings.

Sadie xxx

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