What a wonderful piece of equipment nature gave women! A mini penis? Never in your life! A penis can’t be stimulated to orgasm several times in a row, can it?

If you’re into swinging, or just into sex with your partner, knowing how to stimulate the clitoris is important. Believe me, if you fumble in the dark, so to speak, you won’t find many women wanting to share their beds with you.

It’s important to remember that how much stimulation a woman likes differs vastly. Some like to have direct stimulation of the clitoris while others can hardly bare to have it touched and are happier with pressure on the vulva. For this reason, always start carefully. Rub her vulva gently and see how she reacts. If she’s pushing herself into your hand, she wants you to give her more stimulation, if she’s relaxing and enjoying it, that’s exactly where she wants you to go.

If she isn’t wet enough — and some women do have trouble with this, especially older women — use your mouth to add some extra lubricant. Either apply saliva with your fingers or, if she’s happy receiving oral sex, with your mouth.

What’s important is that you let the woman lead the way. Don’t rush her. It can take a while before a woman orgasms but that doesn’t mean she isn’t enjoying it. Watch her body language - that’ll tell you lots.

Sadie xxx

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