Are you one of those guys who’s worried that when it comes to the crunch, so to speak, you just won’t be able to get it up? If you are then believe me, you’re not alone.

There are methods of overcoming the problem though so if you’re having trouble with it, it’s worth giving them a go.

Relax
I know that’s easier said than done but honestly, if you can just relax and let whatever happens happen, you’ll stand a far better chance of actually getting it up.

Slow Down
There’s no rush is there? Take your time over foreplay and don’t think about penetration while you’re satisfying her with your fingers and tongue. If you do get it up, fair enough, use what you have to satisfy her too but it’s nothing to rush into.

Lower Your Expectations
Most men with performance anxiety have high expectations of their own performance. They expect to keep going until they’ve given their partner a dozen orgasms and then come simultaneously with her. Let’s be honest, this might happen all the time in porn films but this is real life and it seldom happens. Get real and lower those expectations.

Live in The Hear and Now
Men with performance anxiety often get distracted by thinking of everything that could go wrong instead of just enjoying what’s happening right now. By concentrating on what’s going on in the bed (or wherever you are) you won’t be able to worry so much and the chances of your getting it up will be much higher.

So there you are. I can’t guarantee they’ll work but anything worth a try, isn’t it?

Sadie xx

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