I heard a friend complain last night about a guy at the club she frequents. Apparently he needs a lot of attention before he’s hard enough for a shag and she’s tired of spending an hour or more giving him oral just for a few minutes ‘full sex’.
I have to say, I couldn’t agree more.
It’s not that I don’t sympathise with the guy who has trouble getting aroused, but she tells me this guy appears to think it’s his right as a club member to have full sex and that women should do whatever it takes to get him ready for it.
Codswallop!
If you come across anybody who thinks like that, whether they’re male or female, let me tell you now that there are no obligations within the world of swinging! Absolutely none whatsoever!!
Nobody can expect you to spend an unreasonable amount of time getting them ready – if they’re not turned on by the thought of sex, the sight of naked people, the smell of naked bodies, then they obviously have a problem and should perhaps think about sorting that out before expecting others to swing with them.
If you find yourself in a situation like my friend has done, be kind but firm. Let the other part know that you don’t want to give oral (or whatever) for unreasonable lengths of time (I’d say 20 minutes should be ample) but that they’re more than welcome to join in if they can prepare themselves.
Here’s to fun and games for all – without jaw ache!
Sadie xx
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