As most of you probably know by now, Malc and I often play alone. By that I mean that I sometimes go swinging without Malc and that he sometimes does the same. We’re very secure in our relationship so it works fine for us.
BUT… if I were meeting somebody for the first time who’s married but playing alone, I’d be very sceptical. Why? Because not everybody is entirely honest about things.
Sometimes, one or other partner isn’t satisfied with swinging as a couple and will go off and do his or her own thing behind the other’s back and that isn’t something I want to be part of. For me, swinging is an honest, open lifestyle, not something you do without your partner’s knowledge.
Malc and I are always 100% honest and open about everything we do. If he wants to join a couple as a third person, he’ll tell me so and likewise me if I want to join others for some fun.
If I’m approached by anybody that I know is married and is looking for some single fun, I always decline unless I’ve been introduced to the person’s partner and am certain that they’re happy to issue a “hall pass”, so to speak. And although I can’t tell you what to do, I would urge you to be cautious when playing with a married person who’s playing alone as it can lead to situations that you’d be better off steering clear of.
Sadie xx
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