As a member of several swingers clubs, one of the things I often hear from new members talk about is how nervous they were about joining. I’m not quite sure why that is because if there one thing you can be certain of, it’s that everybody at the club will share your passion for sex.

Anyway, although I don’t understand the reasons I can certainly understand the feelings so I thought I’d give you a bit of advice about joining a swingers club.

First of all, have a look in the small ads of your local newspaper or make an Internet search for swingers clubs in your area. Don’t be too precise; the likelihood of finding one in a small town is much slimmer than in a city. You could even try searching your county.

Take a look at their websites. In my experience, if the website’s professionally designed there’s a good chance that the club’s well run with strict rules that members are expected to adhere to.

The kind of rules a good club will have include a no touching policy unless a couple/trio/group have agreed to sex. They also insist that members take no for answer and don’t hassle other members who may not feel ready for sex or, quite simply, don’t fancy sex with that particular person. After all, just because we’re swingers doesn’t mean we’ll bed just any old body, does it?

A good club will also have a dress code, depending on the night.

On “general” evenings, smart attire may well be expected before a set time, after which the ladies will perhaps change into lingerie and the gentlemen into a towel wrapped around their waists. “Leather & Rubber” evenings speak for themselves and some clubs arrange a “Lingerie” evening that’s for ladies only and is very popular amongst bi members.

Sex generally takes place is designated rooms away from the main bar/lounge area so don’t worry about walking in to find hundreds of people humping in front of you. You’ll have a chance to get used to your new surroundings and, believe me, before you know it, you’ll wonder why you didn’t join before.

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