Have you ever heard of the Bonobo chimps? If you haven’t, let me tell you a bit about them.
Although some people will undoubtedly dispute this, the fact is that no other mammal is closer to us biologically. Only 1.6% of the Bonobo’s genes differ to ours! That’s pretty close. So close, in fact, that the Bonobo is closer to us than the first humans that walked on two feet were!
Of all the apes, the Bonobo is the one that’s most likely to move around on two legs, and their society is dominated by females.
Wondering where all this is going? Well just hang in there and all will become clear.
There are far more similarities between us and Bonobos for me to write about here (I don’t want to keep you for hours) but to cut a long story short, Bonobos are natural swingers.
Just like us humans, they only have a few days during their menstrual cycle where they can become pregnant and yet they have sex regularly throughout the month. The female also has an orgasm. Based on this, it would appear that the Bonobo has sex for enjoyment rather than just for procreation. They also give each other deep tongue kisses, have sex in a variety of positions and give one another oral sex. They also masturbate and the females have sex together.
All sounds pretty familiar, doesn’t it?
Whenever there’s a conflict within the group, it’s calmed by sex. Often, a Bonobo will jump in at the first sign of a conflict and offer sex as a way of diverting attention and stopping any aggression before it becomes dangerous.
Another point where Bonobos are like humans is that the females use sex to get what they want. Yes, I’m a woman, but I’m happy enough to admit that I use sex at times. Find me a woman who hasn’t and I’ll show you one who isn’t telling the entire truth!
Anyway, what all this boils down to is that it would appear that from nature’s side, intelligent sexual beings are designed to enjoy sex with more partners than just the one they chose to spend their lives with (Bonobos have a life partner). That we were designed to swing.
I wouldn’t be surprised if that isn’t the case and that it’s just the stuffiness of our ‘modern’ society that says sex is bad unless it’s kept behind the bedroom door and enjoyed with just one person.
Agree? I thought you might.
Sadie xxx
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