The only rule when it comes to what’s sexually acceptable within the swinging environment is that there are really no rules at all. It’s up to each threesome/foursome/group or whatever to decide what suits them and, in swinging as with everything else, it’s a matter of “if everybody’s happy doing what they’re doing, it’s nobody else’s business.”
A swinging friend called a few days ago, telling me that she was troubled because her husband had told her he gets more turned on by watching her having sex with others, be it men or women, than actually taking part in the sex himself. In fact, he’s now taken to inviting single men to meet them and is happy to just sit back and watch the show without joining in at all.
I told her that I didn’t really see a problem even though she was worried that her other half would become jealous. Personally, I’d be very surprised if that happened. After all, he’s not new to the swinging scene and if you think about it, when Jessie (my friend) is enjoying herself with a third person, she’s actually satisfying her husband as well as herself.
The only warning I’d give is that it’s important to keep the lines of communication open. If my friend thought that her husband was watching rather than participating because he was having second thoughts about swinging then they would HAVE to talk about it.
In general, I think we shouldn’t make problems where problems don’t exist. If everybody’s having fun, go with it :- )
Sadie xxx
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