I know it may seem strange to ask whether or not you really want to swing being as you’re here on a swingers advice blog, but I’m asking it all the same.
You see, the thing is, I’ve come across people – women mostly – who are swinging for the wrong reasons and really not enjoying it. And while it’s bad enough that they’re feeling they have to do something they don’t actually want to do, it’s made worse by the fact that those of us who come into contact with them often feel awkward around them, and that isn’t what swinging’s about.
The main reason people get into swinging against their will is to please their partner. When your other half really wants to experience the pleasures of sex with other free-minded souls, it’s all too easy to go along with it even if you’re not interested or even feel upset about it, just because you fear losing your partner if you don’t.
But is that right? Should you be in a relationship where you have to do something you’re uncomfortable with in order to be able to sustain the relationship. I mean, we’re not talking eating out at a Thai restaurant now and then even though you’re not keen on Thai food, we’re talking shagging and that’s serious stuff!
If you’re not totally against the idea then by all means try swinging. If you then find that it really isn’t your scene then it’s time to talk to your partner and perhaps reassess your relationship.
Sadie xxx
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