When couples meet for swinging play, it’s important that they lay down some ground rules before playtime begins but for those who are new to the scene, actually talking about what’s expected can be more difficult than actually having sex.

But it is important that things are discussed and some subjects are naturally more sensitive than others. Things you might want to discuss beforehand include:

• Whether a man can penetrate the woman who isn’t their partner
• Whether the men should ejaculate into a condom or, of not, where?
• Whether the men are happy to touch each other and, if so, where and how?
• As above but from the female point of view
• Whether you’re all happy giving and receiving oral sex
• Whether or not kissing is acceptable
• Whether or not anal sex can be practised

The isn’t an exhaustive list and each couple will no doubt have questions of their own that need to be discussed beforehand.

Just remember that no matter how uncomfortable it feels to raise these subjects, it’ll be far more uncomfortable if you get into a situation during play that you’re unhappy with and that not setting the ground rules beforehand can lead to negative swinging experiences.

Sadie xx

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