You thought I’d forget that I’m supposed to be posting acronyms, abbreviations and the likes on Saturdays, didn’t you? Well I’ll be totally honest - I nearly forgot. If Malc hadn’t reminded me, I’d be waffling on about something entirely different.

So, let’s see what we’ve got today. The male body and anything that’s related to it - my favourite subject!!

BJ - You gotta know this one? It’s a Blow Job! Fellatio! Giving a guy oral stimulation.

MTF - A transgender female who was born a male.

FTM - The opposite of the above.

BHM - Big Handsome Man, although sometimes you’ll come across an ad where the man describes himself as such even though it’s debatable.

SWM - Single white male. Similarly, SBM means single black male.

VWE - Very well endowed, although what ‘well endowed’ means can differ considerably from person to person.

Most of the above are used in contact ads but you’ll sometimes see them used in connection with parties, too. For example, a host might want to invite VWE men only.

Sadie xxx

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uk swingers

There are a couple of things that are sometimes seen in swingers ads and that newbie swingers don’t understand so I thought we’d take a look at them today.

D/D free
This one means that the couple/individual are disease and drug free. Most swingers who use this in their ads will have had a test to ensure that they have no venereal diseases or HIV otherwise there’s little point in mentioning it. After all, we can all guess that we’re disease free but can we really know for sure? Malc and I always demand that condoms are used otherwise there simply won’t be any play and that way you can be pretty sure that diseases aren’t being passed around. I don’t even give oral without protection unless I know the person really well.

V/Safe
This one means that the male has had a vasectomy so there will be no chance of pregnancy occurring. Again, if you use a condom this shouldn’t really be too much of an issue but there are times when the condom slips off and knowing that you don’t need to rush out and get a morning after pill can be helpful. I’m one of those people who never really trusts anybody until I’ve known them for a while, though, so even if the man insisted he’d had the snip, I’d still take my own precautions.

Sadie xxx

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swingers ads

As some of you have probably guessed, I talk a lot. I talk to friends about all sorts but one of my favourite subjects is – yes, you got it, SEX!

It was during one such conversation that I realised there’s a sexual term that isn’t broadly understood. That’s “cuckolding”.

So what does it mean?

Originally it meant a the action of a woman being unfaithful to a man who was so weak he couldn’t do anything to stop her and didn’t dare divorce her. Nowadays it’s used more in terms of a fetish though.

Lots of couples enjoy a situation where the woman has sex with another man while her partner watches and call that cuckolding. It isn’t though. It’s only actually cuckolding when the man’s forced to watch and isn’t allowed to join in - when there’s an element of domination to the scenario.

It’s a popular fetish that we see being enjoyed almost every time we visit our swingers club and there are parties arranged especially for cuckolding so if that’s your thing, there’s plenty of fun to be had. And just because you enjoy cuckolding doesn’t mean you have to do it all the time either. Variation is the name of the game!

Sadie xx

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swingers advice

Today we’re going to talk about cottaging and, no, that doesn’t mean looking at quaint homes in the country that look as if they should be featured on chocolate boxes.

Cottaging is the term for dogging when practised by gay men and just like dogging, it means that certain areas are known to be frequented by gay men who either enjoy being watched by others or are the complete opposite and want to watch strangers having sex.

It’s strange really because there are plenty of places you can go to see others having sex or to show off while doing it yourself and yet cottaging and dogging–both closely related–are incredibly popular pastimes amongst certain groups.

I spoke to a gay friend about cottaging and he said the thrill is in the not knowing who’s watching or, if you do know you’re being watched, not knowing who that person is. And sometimes you can invite a complete stranger to sit in the car with you and watch, or even join in. Yeah… I can see the attraction in that.

Some dogging sites will be left to be occupied by gay men (it’s almost always men) on certain nights and a quick search on Google should bring up some answers as to where you can find cottaging sites.

Sadie xxx

While a lot of swingers enjoy sex with others present, some prefer what’s known as ‘closed swinging’. This simply means partners have sex in different rooms, removed from other guests.During a ‘closed swinging’ session, couples are free to explore their passions without interruptions or distractions from other guests and even though it may take some time to find partners for closed swinging, it’s generally well worth it.

There’s something decidedly naughty about getting randy in a quiet space while a successful swinger’s party rages all around you! It’s kind of the opposite of society’s norm if you get what I mean.

Mind you, ‘closed swinging’ isn’t something you can just jump into. It takes time to get to know another couple enough that you can feel comfortable with them alone so be prepared to put the effort into building a closed swinging relationship.

Don’t rush it and don’t advertise for it - closed swinging is something that has to come naturally. It’s important that not only you but your partner also feels comfortable with whoever you’ll be alone with.

If it happens for you, enjoy it. I certainly do.

Sadie xxx

Are you a BBW or an FA? Not sure? Find out.

BBW stands for “Big Beautiful Woman”. In other words, a lady of proportion; a woman of extreme voluptuous curves; a well-padded girl. Got the idea? We’re not talking just slightly overweight here, either. When a lady describes herself as a BBW she usually means she’s LARGE. Probably at least a size 20 but more often than not, she’ll be much bigger than that.

By adding another B to make the acronym BBBW, we’re talking “Big Black Beautiful Women.” Quite obvious what that means - the same as above but the lady’s black.

Then we have FA. If you’re an FA that means you’re after a BBW. Why? Because FA stands for “Fat Admirer”. For an FA, the bigger the lady is, the better.

Obviously, it’s possible to be a female FA looking for a male but it’s very rare to find a woman who’s attracted to big men. I can’t tell you why this is for sure but at a guess I’d say it’s because women tend to lay their fat on their natural curves whereas men get big guts and end up wearing trousers that give them an arse cleavage. Not attractive, guys!

So if you’re an FA looking for a BBW, now you know exactly what those ads mean.

Sadie xxx

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swinging terminology

I bet you do!

I’ve yet to meet a man who hasn’t fantasised about a threesome and a hell of a lot of women are turned on by the idea, too. The problem is, for most, that they don’t know how to go about finding somebody to join them, either a single if they’re already part of a couple or vice versa. And even when they find a website that has swingers advertising on it, they often don’t understand the terminology.

The first thing to remember is that you need to know beforehand exactly who you’re looking for. If, for example, your wife isn’t interested in sex with another woman, there’s little point in answering ads from bi-sexual women. Similarly, if you’re a bi-sexual guy, you’ll want to find ads placed by couples who are looking for somebody who will service them both.

It might well be worthwhile placing an ad of your own, too. That way you can make it clear exactly who you’re looking for, how far you can travel, whether you can accommodate, etc etc. By being as clear as possible, there’s far less chance of meeting others who, when it cums to it, aren’t actually suitable at all.

When it comes to the two main types of threesomes, remember the following:

FFM: this means two females and a male and is the most common type of threesome. In most cases the females will be bi so it’s probably safe to assume so if nothing else is mentioned. It’s always worth asking to be sure, though.

FMM: you’ve probably guessed that this one means one female and two men. Although not as common as FFM, it’s a whole lot of fun and well worth experimenting with. The guys don’t have to be bi and in these cases, if they are they probably WILL mention it. Even if you’re mostly into FFM, you’ll probably find that most women will be only too pleased to be serviced by two guys… and a lot of male partners enjoy watching their wives/partners being given a good seeing to.

If you think a threesome is something you’d seriously like to try, why not sign up at Adult Connexxxions – one of the biggest swingers dating sites I’ve found. I’ve used it on several occasions myself and haven’t been disappointed

Sadie xxx

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