This is just going to be short and sweet today because I’m busy packing for a few nights away with friends. We’ve known each other for years and… well, we have a lot of fun!

What I wanted to say was this. If you’re interested in joining a swingers dating site in order to find other couples or singles to swing with, remember that it’s really important to upload a photo. And I don’t just mean a photo of your pride and joy but a photo that will give others a good idea of what they can expect of you.

Whenever I see photos of just a person’s intimate parts I always wonder what they’re hiding. Are they fat? Butt ugly? Why would I want to meet somebody I haven’t seen? How do I know I’m likely to want to have sex with them?

I’m not saying you have to make your face visible — you may have reasons for wanting to stay anonymous on the site — but you can still post a full shot with your face pixelated. If you don’t know how to do this, most swingers dating sites will do this for you. Just send them an email and ask.

Hope you’re successful if you do post.

Sadie xxx

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If you’ve just decided to try swinging and have been using a swingers contact site in order to find others to swing with, one thing that you really ought to be aware of is photo collectors.

Some guys sign up as members of swingers sites just so that they can get explicit photos of singles and couples - the kind of ‘real’ photos that are rarely found on the Net otherwise.

My advice is this: when you start exchanging messages with somebody you’ve met on a swingers site, think carefully about how they ask to exchange photos. If it’s one of the first thing the other person/couple does then warning bells should ring because serious swingers will hardly ever do that; they’ll get to know you first and decide whether or not they’re likely to feel comfortable meeting you before they ask for photos.

Leave it a few days before you agree to send photos - if the other person is serious then they’ll wait. If not, they’ll move on and look for another ‘victim’.

Also, if they seem too interested in the photo then think twice about continuing your contact. If you’re chatting about something else and they keep trying to bring the conversation back to photos, forget them and find somebody else.

Unfortunately, just about every swingers dating site has its share of photo collectors but if you use your common sense, you should be ok.

Sadie xxx

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When Malc and I placed an ad on a swingers site, we were surprised at the number of replies we had from couples wanting to speak to us via webcam and skype.

While neither of us are particularly worried about our lifestyle being discovered, it’s still not something we bandy about all over the place. How we lead our sexual lives isn’t anybody’s business but ours.

The reason we refused to use a webcam is because stills can easily be saved and distributed through cyberspace and, as I mentioned in an earlier post, photo collectors exist.

I’ll always maintain that if you’re interested in getting to know somebody you’ve met online then it’s better to arrange an informal meet at a café or similar without any previous exchange of photographs or webcam chats. OK, so maybe that’s a bit inconvenient if you’re not local but if you really think somebody’s worth meeting then surely they’re worth putting yourself out for, too?

Sadie xx

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Did you know that while dating sites are losing popularity, swingers’ sites are gaining it?Evidently, more and more people are turning away from online dating and going back to the conventional ways of finding a partner, but because it isn’t so easy to find other swingers just by walking into a pub or chatting with somebody over lunch at work, swingers’ sites are growing like crazy!

To be honest, it doesn’t surprise me in the least. Sex is just as popular as love - I mean, sex is a part of love but it’s also a part of having a good time. What I’m saying is that love doesn’t necessarily have to be involved for people to want sex so it makes sense that more people would be looking for sex than for love. You’re with me there, right?

Malc and I have joined several swingers’ sites and have found some really good friends through them. One couple live in Scotland so we don’t get to see them too often but when we do go up for the weekend, man do we have fun! Red hot fun!!

If you’re looking to get into the swinging scene, or just want to broaden your swinging horizons, I’d highly recommend you try a few swingers’ sites. It worked for us so why not for you?

Sadie xx

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I bet you do!

I’ve yet to meet a man who hasn’t fantasised about a threesome and a hell of a lot of women are turned on by the idea, too. The problem is, for most, that they don’t know how to go about finding somebody to join them, either a single if they’re already part of a couple or vice versa. And even when they find a website that has swingers advertising on it, they often don’t understand the terminology.

The first thing to remember is that you need to know beforehand exactly who you’re looking for. If, for example, your wife isn’t interested in sex with another woman, there’s little point in answering ads from bi-sexual women. Similarly, if you’re a bi-sexual guy, you’ll want to find ads placed by couples who are looking for somebody who will service them both.

It might well be worthwhile placing an ad of your own, too. That way you can make it clear exactly who you’re looking for, how far you can travel, whether you can accommodate, etc etc. By being as clear as possible, there’s far less chance of meeting others who, when it cums to it, aren’t actually suitable at all.

When it comes to the two main types of threesomes, remember the following:

FFM: this means two females and a male and is the most common type of threesome. In most cases the females will be bi so it’s probably safe to assume so if nothing else is mentioned. It’s always worth asking to be sure, though.

FMM: you’ve probably guessed that this one means one female and two men. Although not as common as FFM, it’s a whole lot of fun and well worth experimenting with. The guys don’t have to be bi and in these cases, if they are they probably WILL mention it. Even if you’re mostly into FFM, you’ll probably find that most women will be only too pleased to be serviced by two guys… and a lot of male partners enjoy watching their wives/partners being given a good seeing to.

If you think a threesome is something you’d seriously like to try, why not sign up at Adult Connexxxions – one of the biggest swingers dating sites I’ve found. I’ve used it on several occasions myself and haven’t been disappointed

Sadie xxx

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One question I’m regularly asked is:”I’ve signed up for a swingers dating site but what should I write in my ad?”First of all, there’s no standard text I can give you. If there were, all the ads would be the same and that’d be pretty boring, wouldn’t it?

What you need to do is sit down with a pen and paper (yes, that’s those things we used to use before computers became part of our lives) and think about what kind of ad you’d reply to yourself and make notes. What information would you like to see in others’ ads?

• What kind of personality do you have? Outgoing? Shy? Jovial?

• How would you describe your looks? Elegant? Sophisticated? Punk?

• Remember that tall and slim says very little whereas “tall, pale-skinned, small framed vamp” says a whole lot more.

• What kind of sex do you enjoy? What are your limits?

• How do you like to dress?

• What kind of relationship do you want? No-strings? Friendship? Commitment?

• Are you willing to travel? If so, how far?

• Can you accommodate for a night/weekend?

• What’s your marital status? If you have a partner, does he/she swing, too?

Once you’ve decided what you need to write in your ad, take into consideration a few other points.

• DON’T USE CAPITALS. You may think they’ll make your ad stand out but in reality, they’re damned difficult to read and in net language, you’re shouting! Similarly, don’t use coloured text. Just plain old black on white is what most people will be comfortable with.

• Take the time to check your writing for spelling mistakes. Sloppy writing gives a bad impression and you’ll be far less likely to attract responses.

• Be honest! Remember, you’re gonna meet some of these people one day so lying about who you are and what you want is pointless.

That’s it. Take your time and write an ad that others will enjoy reading and you’ll soon be picking and choosing who you do and don’t want to meet.

Good luck and have tons of fun,
Sadie xxx

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