Did you know that the porno star, Jon Dough, had sex with 55 women in one day during the making of the film “The World’s Luckiest Man”?

Unbelievable, isn’t it? I mean, how many blokes do you know who could get it up and keep it up long enough to do that?

I’ve blogged about Penile Erectile Dysfunction before, but this time I want to talk about the ability to maintain an erection over a period of time that would allow you to have sex with more than one woman. I mean, as a swinger, that’s definitely a plus!

While everybody’s different and there are no rules as to what’s right or wrong, the ability to maintain and control and erection is something that most men are capable of, as long as they keep their bodies healthy.

Here are a few tips to help you on your way:

• Quit smoking, or at least cut right down. Smoking causes the blood vessels to narrow meaning that less blood can be pumped into the penis, a necessity if you’re going to stand any chance of a good, solid erection that has staying power.
• Get plenty of rest. Stress can lead to high blood pressure which again can lead to erection problems. Make sure you’re relaxed by having a regular sleep pattern and seeking out peaceful pastimes.
• Eat a healthy diet. This is important for the circulation which again is important for a lasting erection.
• Take regular exercise. Again, important for good circulation.

If you follow those tips and don’t have any underlying medical problems that could be the cause of your erection problems, you should soon be enjoying a lasting erection that will allow you to swing until your heart’s content.

Good luck.

Sadie xxx

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I must have one of those faces that attract people to open up to me because I’m forever having to dish out advice. And not only to friends, either. No, people who are almost strangers come up to me to ask for swinging advice. It doesn’t bother me, though - I’m generally more than happy to help where I can.

Just yesterday I had a lady approach me regarding her first experience of swinging with a couple that she and her other half had met through an online swingers site. They’d exchanged emails for a while and eventually arranged to meet at a restaurant for a meal and, after spending the evening together, decided they’d like to go ahead and meet in private. At this point, all was well.

Both couples booked into a Blackpool hotel for the Saturday night and Jennie (the lady who approached me) and her partner were very much looking forward to a sexy weekend.

The two couples had a drink in the bar — but not enough as to affect performance — before going up to one of the rooms to play. The first half an hour or so went well but when it came to putting a condom on the male of the other couple (we’ll call him David), as soon as he got it on, he went soft. Jennie blew him while her own husband and David’s wife enjoyed some intimate fun of their own, and he soon grew nice and hard again. Once again Jennie put a condom on him and once again he went soft.

To cut a long story short, David simply wasn’t able to sustain an erection as long as he was wearing a condom and Jennie, quite sensibly, wasn’t going to have sex without one. In the end she played with her husband while David’s partner sorted him out.

The reason I’m telling you this story is because it’s something I’ve personally come across and have also heard from others before. For some men, the feel of a condom on the penis is so uncomfortable that they lose their erection almost immediately but this is a problem that can be overcome with practise.

If you want to swing, you’re going to have to accept that a condom is part of the package and practise at home before you go out and meet others to play with. It may take a while but you’ll only get there if you persevere.

Good luck.

Sadie xxx

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Is your sex drive dwindling? Do you find yourself unable to match your partner’s desire? Did you used to be an active member of the swinging community but have found yourself less and less interested in ‘getting about’ lately?

If the above sounds like you, the problem could be that you’re eating the wrong kind of food.

By cutting down on sugar and stimulants such as coffee, tea, cigarettes and alcohol, you’ll probably find that your sex drive increases.

Why?

Sugar tends to make us lethargic and when energy levels are down, our sex drive tends to fly out of the window. On the other hand, stimulants can leave us feeling too wired, leading to anxiety which again is a sex drive killer. What you need is that happy medium where you’re not too tired but not too wired, either.

Animal fats can also play havoc with our hormones which again affect the sex drive. Try reducing your intake of dairy produce, fried foods and processed foods and you could find that your desire for your partner (or anybody else who happens to be available) soars through the roof.

Pesticides are also known to do nasty things to our hormones so it’s well worth trying to stick with organic foods wherever possible. Lots of fruit and raw vegetables can be a godsend for the sex drive!

To further increase energy levels, B vitamins are absolutely vital. Try eating more broccoli, mushrooms, brown rice and eggs.

Vitamin E is also needed and can be found in wheatgerm, eggs, soya beans, almonds and hazelnuts, dark green veg and sprouting seeds (such as alfalfa).

So there you go. Don’t just sit around wishing your sex drive would come back. Take a look at your diet and see if there isn’t something you could do to help ease it back in.

Sadie xxx

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Condoms. I doubt there’s anybody reading this who hasn’t used one at some point or another.

When I was a girl there wasn’t a whole lot of choice. We had plain ones, ribbed ones, a pack of rainbow colours condoms and black ones. That was about it.

But that’s all changed now. Condoms are available in all sorts of designs and colours, from luminous glow-in-the-dark condoms to ones that play Jingle Bells when you come! Yes, it’s true. I didn’t quite believe that last one either but Malc found them during a trip to Amsterdam and had to buy some. And they worked.

Well, when I say worked, what I mean is they played the tune but most of these novelty condoms don’t work if you’re using them to prevent pregnancy or STDs.

The camp seems to be divided when it comes to the effect of ribbed condoms. Personally, I think they enhance the pleasure but I have friends who say they can’t feel any difference so I guess it’s a matter of trial and error. If your partner can’t feel a difference there’s hardly any point in wasting money when plain condoms will do the job equally as well.

Flavoured condoms are a MUST if you’re using them in conjunction with oral sex. I won’t go down on anyone other than Malc without a condom on and I only the chosen few will persuade me to give them head whilst wearing a lubricated condom. Yuk!! Believe me, flavoured condoms really are the only way to go in this situation.

What’s important is that you always bear in mind that for a condom to be worth using, it must be safe and the only way to be certain of that is to use only condoms that bear either the British Standard Kite Mark, the EEC Standard Mark or the US FDA Approval Mark. And remember that condoms have an expiration date. Unless you want to risk pregnancy or the spread of nasty diseases, don’t be tempted to use any that are out of date. It just isn’t worth the risk.

Sadie xxx

There’s still much belief in the myth that women lose their sex drive once they hit the menopause but it’s about time people started to realise that older women can enjoy sex just as much as younger women.

While some do experience a dwindling interest during the first stages of menopause, by the time the menopause is behind them, around 80% of women still enjoy sex to the same degree as before their menopause. In fact, some enjoy it more because the fear of unwanted pregnancies has been removed.

The 20% who do experience a reduction in their sex drive can generally be treated. The main reasons are:

• Vaginal dryness
• Long arousal time
• Difficulty reaching orgasm
• Pain (and sometimes bleeding) during intercourse

Water based lubricants like KY jelly can be useful in reducing pain and dryness but in severe cases, hormone replacement therapy may be prescribed as this increases estrogen levels.

Some older women experience a reduction in their sex drive simply because they tire easily. If that’s the case and sex is an important part of the relationship, it’s vital that a woman’s daily tasks are reduced as she ages. Extra vitamins may also help.

For some women, the idea of no longer being fertile is synonymous with not longer being a ‘proper’ woman, something they may find difficult to come to terms with. In these cases it’s important that, as a partner, you reassure her that she’s still as feminine and as gorgeous as ever, if not more so!

The menopause shouldn’t mean the end of a satisfactory sex life and should never be seen as such. If you or your partner experiences problems they can almost always be solved so rest assured that your twilight years won’t necessarily mean you can’t get some heat around your wick anymore.

Sadie xxx

Herpes — or HSVII — is a nasty highly contagious infection that’s easily transmitted during intercourse or other intimate contact with the genitals, mouth or rectum.

The problem with herpes is that, although it’s at its most contagious when sores can be seen, it can be caught when there are no visible signs that a potential partner has the virus.

If you’ve ever had a cold-sore on your lip you’ll know what herpes is and an outbreak of genital herpes feels very similar; tingling and itching in the genital area followed by small blisters that can appear in groups or individually. Eventually the blisters burst leaving wet ulcers that hurt like hell when touched and sex often becomes too painful to even consider. Some people also experience flu like symptoms, vaginal discharge, painful urination and an enlarged and tender lymph node in the groin.

So how do you make sure you don’t catch it?

The most obvious answer is to ALWAYS use a condom. I know I’ve often mentioned the importance of condoms when swinging but I really can’t stress often enough just how important it is.

Also, if you notice that somebody has sores on their mouth, avoid oral sex with them (that includes oral-anal). Even though the sores we develop on our mouths are HSV-I, they can still infect the genitals.

Sadly, once you’ve contracted herpes, you’ll have it for life. There’s no cure so the virus will always stay with you and although you’ll probably have long, sore-free periods, you’ll still be a carrier and will feel very uncomfortable during outbreaks.

Luckily I’ve managed to avoid it but I have friends who have been unlucky and they all wish that they’d been more careful. Be sensible, please, and don’t become one of the statistics.

Sadie xx

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I’m sure I’m not the only one who opens her email inbox in the morning only to find it filled to bursting point with spam ads for Viagra and other forms of medication that I neither need nor want. But even though I’m not interested in Viagra, I accept that for some it’s been a godsend. But do you now how it works?

First of all, in order to understand how Viagra works, you need to understand how the penis works. Because it doesn’t have any muscles it’s dependent on pressure from blood flowing in to it in order to make it move (become erect). When the blood rushes into it, it’s sort of like air being blown in.

The blood flows into the penis through two arteries and it’s when one remains constricted—as it is while it’s limp in order to stop blood flowing in—that erection problems arise (otherwise known as penile dysfunction). Enter Viagra whose job it is to open the artery and allow blood to pass through.

Viagra makes sure that the penis receives the blood it needs by acting on the tissue surrounding the arteries when a man becomes aroused. Exactly how it does this is far too scientific to answer in a short blog post but it’s generally enough to know that it won’t cause erections amongst men who aren’t aroused, a fear that many appear to have. It reacts with enzymes that are released during arousal so there’s really no reason to think that if you take Viagra, you’ll end up walking around with a boner all day.

One final word. If you are thinking about using Viagra or a similar drug, speak to your GP first. Ordering drugs over the Internet is never a safe way of going about dealing with health matters.

Sadie xxx

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OK, so maybe some of you will wonder why on earth I’m writing about the scrotum because, to you, it’s perfectly obvious what’s going on down there, but don’t imagine that because you know about things that everybody else knows the same. There are some people who are still learning and if I can help them understand something, whether it’s how the body works sexually or why sex toys can be good to use, then as far as I’m concerned, I’ve done something worthwhile.

Most people know the scrotum as “The Balls” and are the sacs that hang below and behind the penis. The scrotum contains the testes (also known as testicles) which are the male sexual glands.

The reasons the testes are hidden away inside the scrotum rather than just hanging there on view, is because they need to be kept at a constant temperature of 34 centigrade which is slightly below our overall body temperature of 37 degrees. It’s only while kept at the optimum temperature that the testes are able to produce sperm so it’s really important they don’t get too hot. That’s why a lot of doctors are telling guys who are trying to make their partners pregnant not to wear tight jeans and leathers etc, because they’re heating up the testes.

Inside the scrotum is also a tube called the epididymis. This is a kind of waiting room for mature sperm that are ready to be shot out in the hope of finding an egg to fertilise. Either that or they’ll come creeping out during the night.

So there you go. What the scrotum is and what it does. Just remember that too much pressure on the balls is painful for a guy, so unless you’re being attacked, be very careful with them.

Sadie xxx

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We all know that a lot of men like to see a freshly shaved pussy, but far too few men are taking the time to offer the same back to their partners. Come on guys, it’s time you got the razor out for our sake’s too!

Why not make an evening of it and shave each other? Most men I’ve spoken to (and had sex with) who’ve shaved their balls and the base of their cocks have said it makes them want to fondle themselves a lot more too, so they could easily imagine how much better it must be for the women in their lives.

Just imagine for a moment, your smooth cock and balls against her smooth pussy. Go on, close your eyes and think about. Your pushing your cock against her crack and all you can feel is skin against skin, and lots of slippery love juice. Wouldn’t you enjoy that? Well so would she.

Then there’s the fact that you’ll smell a whole lot better, too. Quite often, the odour that occurs around unshaven balls is a bit of a put off when a lady goes down on a guy, but shave it away and it’ll be a whole new ball game (no pun intended). And if you like having your balls licked, you’ll be in paradise.

What are you waiting for? Go find that razor and surprise her tonight.

Sadie xxx

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Have you ever heard of phthalates? No, it’s not a prehistoric animal, it’s a carboxylic acid ester commonly used to make plastics more flexible and mouldable.

Apparently, some adult products (that’s sex toys, in case you don’t know) contain phthalates and phthalates are potential health hazards. If they leak out and become absorbed into the body, the response could be anything from irritation, headache and reddening of the skin to cancer. In pregnant women, a risk could be that little boys are born with smaller than average genitals.

But don’t go getting too upset. It takes quite a bit of the stuff to make any real affect and as long as you buy good quality toys, you should be ok. Cheap and cheerful importers are more likely to distribute badly made toys that contain high amounts of phthalates. But if you really want to be sure, you could always cover your vibe with a condom.

It goes without saying that sex toys should be thoroughly washed after each use, not only because of the phthalates risk but also because of STDs and well… you’d wash your genitals after sex, wouldn’t you? Treat your toys the same way!

I hope I haven’t scared you because that wasn’t my meaning. It’s just worth knowing these things, that’s all. I intend to carry on using my toys because, let’s face it, we stand more risk of seeing the curtains come down when we drive our cars than we do because of using a vibrator or rubber pussy!

Sadie xx

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