A lot of straight people and a fair number of swingers look at those who enjoy the adult baby scene as being slightly weird. Why would anybody want to dress up in a nappy and be treated like a baby? And why would a woman enjoy forcing or persuading her partner to dress up in nappies, plastic pants and baby clothes? After all, there’s something pretty humiliating about the whole thing.

It just so happens that one of my closest friends and her husband are into the adult baby scene and she tells me that there are several reasons why couples enjoy it.

For many men, society’s demand for them to be masculine and ‘in control’ can be too much for them so by dressing as babies, they can regress back to a situation where everything was done for them and nothing was expected of them. There’s also a definite desire for masochism because they enjoy being spanked when they misbehave, especially if they dirty themselves. For some men, the ability to cry is more or less disabled in their ‘real’ lives but their baby lives give them the chance to release emotions they otherwise have to keep in check.

For many women, giving a man the chance to explore his sexuality and enjoy scenarios where they become somebody else — in this case a mother — keeps them from straying. The majority of adult babies are perfectly happy with their lives consisting of vanilla sex and the baby scenario and therefore have no reason to want more.

Then there’s the intimacy and trust. No couple can act out an adult baby scene without complete and total trust on both sides. If that’s in place, the levels of intimacy they can reach are far higher than for most couples who can’t even talk about their fantasies, let alone act them out together.

Sadie xxx

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A good friend of mine has a thing about transvestites, the thing being that she can’t keep her hands off of them. As she says, they satisfy her bi-sexual desires in one shot!

I can definitely see where she’s coming from there, although I can’t imagine a trannie ever satisfying my lust for other women; after all, they don’t have tits or pussies, two integral parts of what attracts me to women in the first place.

But this blog isn’t about what I like, it’s about swinging and sex in general and there’s no doubt that there’s definitely a market for women who like sex with transvestites. I have tried once, and would probably try again given the opportunity, but most of the trannies I know are straight gay (if that isn’t a contradiction of terms, then God knows what is!) and aren’t interested in sleeping with women. I know they’re out there, though - my friend finds plenty of them!

Wanting to pass on some of her experience to you, I asked her for advice on how to meet transvestites and luckily, she was happy to share.

“Use newspapers and the Internet,” she said. “There are lots of websites that bring swingers together and if you advertise specifically for a male transvestite for sex, making it clear that you’re female, you should get enough response to keep you happy for a while.”

Obviously, you have to be prepared to travel. The chances of finding a dozen trannies who want sex with women in a small town is probably like looking for the proverbial needle, but if you “have can, can travel”, there shouldn’t be a problem. Or maybe he can travel to you? Or why not meet for a drink at a spot that’s half way and, if you hit it off, shack up in a motel for the night?

If you fantasise about sex with a transvestite, there’s no reason why your dream shouldn’t come true. They’re out there - go find them!

Sadie xxx

One of the questions I’m often asked is what BDSM is. Most people have heard of it but few outside the scene actually understand it.

First of all, BDSM stands for Bondage & Discipline (BD), Dominance & Submission (DS) and Sadomasochism (SM) and refers to any combination of these things.

If you tie your lover to the bed with silk scarves then you’re practising BDSM. If you spank him or her with a paddle, you’re practising BDSM. If you drip hot wax on your partners penis then you’re practising BDSM and if you attach nipple clamps to your woman then you’re also practising BDSM. In other words, a lot of activities are covered by BDSM even though the majority tends to think of it as being all whips, chains and rubber.

What’s essential in BDSM play is that there’s at least one submissive and one dominant person. Some people like to be submissive all of the time, and some like only to be dominant. Others like to switch between the submissive and dominant roles, depending on their mood and desires at the time.

The strange thing is, even those who turn their noses up at BDSM, believing that it’s just for weirdo kinky types, generally practise some form of BDSM at times, but without actually realising it. If you’ve ever tied your partner up or blindfolded him or her, then you’ll have practised BDSM. If you’ve ever so much as demanded they lay entirely still while you smother them in cream and lick it off, then you’ll have practised BDSM. It’s strange to think that a form of sexual pleasure that’s often considered to be a niche activity enjoyed by a few ‘pervy types’ is actually something that most of us enjoy in some form or another!

Sadie xxx

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Following on from yesterday’s post, I thought I’d share a few BDSM games with you. Obviously, this isn’t an extensive list - far from it - but the least I can do is share with you the games I’ve been involved in and that I’ve thought were fun.

Chopsticks - I was at a party once when a guy whipped a pair of chopsticks from the table (we’d had a Chinese meal beforehand), put one above and below my nipple and bound them together at each end with an elastic band (I’ve no idea where he found them!). The sensation was incredible and I’ve often since wondered what it would have been like if he’d done the same thing with my clitoris. Hmmm… must mention that to Malc!

Electric Toothbrush - Malc did this to me and I highly recommend you try it. Hold your electric toothbrush against your own or your partner’s clit and enjoy! Can also be used on the head of the penis.

Orgasm Denial - Often used by dom females on submissive men. There are hundreds of ways of doing this but the basic idea is always the same: to stop your partner from having an orgasm. How long you deny them is up to you. It can be an hour, a day or even a week. Keep them on the brink, though, for maximum fun.

Living Doll - I wonder if this was what Sir Cliff was thinking of when he sang about his living doll? Basically, one partner agrees to be the doll and is used in any way in order to bring satisfaction to the other partner who can place him/her in any position and take any action. The ‘doll’ mustn’t take an active role in any way whatsoever.

Public Undies - Send your partner to work, the shops, to the theatre or wherever wearing your underwear.

BDSM games are really only restricted by your imagination. If it involves a dominant and a submissive partner then it’s BDSM, regardless of whether it’s soft or hard play.

Most of us have enjoyed it at some time, and if we find the kind of BDSM games that are right for us, we can go on enjoying them for a long, long time.

Sadie xxx

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As some of you have probably guessed, I talk a lot. I talk to friends about all sorts but one of my favourite subjects is – yes, you got it, SEX!

It was during one such conversation that I realised there’s a sexual term that isn’t broadly understood. That’s “cuckolding”.

So what does it mean?

Originally it meant a the action of a woman being unfaithful to a man who was so weak he couldn’t do anything to stop her and didn’t dare divorce her. Nowadays it’s used more in terms of a fetish though.

Lots of couples enjoy a situation where the woman has sex with another man while her partner watches and call that cuckolding. It isn’t though. It’s only actually cuckolding when the man’s forced to watch and isn’t allowed to join in - when there’s an element of domination to the scenario.

It’s a popular fetish that we see being enjoyed almost every time we visit our swingers club and there are parties arranged especially for cuckolding so if that’s your thing, there’s plenty of fun to be had. And just because you enjoy cuckolding doesn’t mean you have to do it all the time either. Variation is the name of the game!

Sadie xx

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One common misunderstanding amongst non-swingers is that we swingers like sex in all its forms and variations, but as any swinger will tell you, that isn’t true.

We all have our sexual preferences and most of us have areas where we simply don’t tread, one of my areas being Bukkake. BUT, just because it doesn’t attract me, doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with it - I have plenty of girlfriends who love it and Malc’s also been known to participate in the odd Bukkake Party.

So what is it?

Simple. Bukkake is when a bunch of guys cum over one or several women’s faces while the woman’s kneeling in front of them.

The general way it works is that one guy will shoot his load on a woman’s face, that will then be left to drip while the next guy takes his turn. Sometimes this is changed to become a bit more of a game with several men trying to shoot at the same time.

Bukkake originate from Japan with the emphasis definitely being on humiliation. It is, I suppose, the opposite of femdom.

Because some swingers prefer to take the dominant role and others a more submissive role, it stands to reason that not all swingers are going to enjoy the same things. And then there are those who like to switch roles occasionally, like Malc. I’m definitely the dominant part in our relationship, but I can understand that it feels good for him to turn that around now and then, hence his participation in the odd bukkake party.

Just to give you a proper idea of what goes on, here’s a free gallery of bukkake pictures.

So there you have it. If you’re ever invited to a Bukkake Party, you’ll know what to expect.

Sadie xxx

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If you’re into latex and rubber and want to try something just a little different, why not try a latex sheet for your bed?

I’d seen them at our swingers’ club (they’re used to protect the mattresses) but hadn’t seen them on a private bed before last weekend.

A few weeks ago I told you about a friend who’d moved a boy slave into her house. Well when I went over a few days ago and stayed the night, I was amazed to find she had latex sheets on her bed! Not on the guest bed that I’d be using — I’m sure that would have been far too much of a waste — but on her bed. She’d been preparing for a session with her young friend.

I have to say, they did look good. They were black and sexy, and very appealing. But what’s more, you could actually sleep with them. And sleep comfortably, too!

How?

Well you could rip off the sheets to reveal satin sheets underneath and turn the duvet to expose a smooth satin reverse side that would be equally as sexy but far more comfortable to sleep under. Laila’s were black with red satin flip-sides. How sexy is that? And what a practical idea?

Neither Malc or I are into latex and rubber enough to buy these but I’m sure plenty of you are so if you’re interested in learning more, the sheets are available from Between The Sheets.

Sadie xxx

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Just a quickie today but an important one, I believe.

I’ve heard that there’s a myth going around that would have it that strap-on dildos are dangerous for women to use.

I don’t mean they’re dangerous for the “receiver” but for the “giver” – although in actual fact they aren’t dangerous for anybody at all.

The myth would have it that “all that pounding” can be damaging to the woman’s pelvis. Now, I don’t know about you but whenever I’ve used a strap-on, I’ve hardly gone at it with the kind of gusto that a man would if he were doing the “giving”.

Yeah, I can imagine it may be dangerous if you do go at it hammer and tongs although I’d imagine it’d be, at the least, very uncomfortable for the “receiver” and possibly even dangerous, but if you’re just having a bit of fun with your strap-on, you’re hardly going to do too much damage. Although I’m no doctor, and if you’re really worried, I’d suggest you have a chat with your GP about it.

Sadie xx

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I’ve written a couple of posts about uniforms recently (see here and here) and have since had an email from a lovely gentleman asking for some ideas for role play games where he and his partner can dress up and have fun.

Always willing to please, here’s “Sadie’s List of Role Play Ideas”.

Boss/Secretary – he wears a three piece suit, she wears a short black skirt, white blouse, stilettos and stockings.

Police Man/Prostitute – he wears a policeman’s uniform and she dresses as sleezy as she likes. Of course, she might have to do all sorts in order to avoid arrest.

Teacher/Student – he wears grey flannels, a white shirt and tie – she wears a schoolgirl uniform. When she’s caught being naughty, she’ll need to do what’s necessary to avoid being reported to the head. This one can also be played the opposite way with the lady taking the role of teacher and her pupil having to drop his pants, get across her knee and take six of the best!

Handyman/Housewife – this is one of my favourites. He wears dungerees with nothing but his muscles underneath and she wears her sexy negligee. Will it just be a cuppa she offers him? And what does she mean when she says “Your hammer’s nice and long and hard?”

Knight/Princess – the poor girl needs rescuing but what will she have to do to convince her knight she’s the girl for him?

Nurse/Patient – an old favourite and one that almost everybody enjoys. Who knows what the nurse will have to examine in order to find out just what’s wrong with her patient.

Master/Slave – this doesn’t have to be just for the BDSM lovers out there, just being cuffed to the bed and giving a few light lashes with a soft whip can be very titillating.

Of course, there are many, many more ideas and I could probably go on indefinitely but this should be enough to get your started.

Have fun!

Sadie xx

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Last night I ran into a friend I hadn’t seen for ages. It was good to see him again but what’s more important is that he reminded me of something I’d completely forgotten about.

He has a fetish, y’see. A peg fetish. Well that’s what he calls it although there may well be a ‘proper’ name for it that I don’t know about.

The thing is, Johnny likes to have pegs placed all over his body. He used to go to a madam who would oblige him with this but as she’s moved away from the area, he’s “without placement”, as he put it, and looking for a new lady to participate in his games.

His old madam used to give him a bag of pegs (the old fashioned wooden kind with a spring in the middle) and tell him where to put them. One on each toe, several on each ear, on his foreskin, on his cheeks, his lips, his tongue, his fingers and just about anywhere else it was possible to place a peg. In all, fifty of them were placed around his body.

It sounds pretty painful to me but I’m sure he’s not the only one with this particular fetish. And as I’ve said so many times before - each to their own.

Sadie xxx

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