Did you know that the porno star, Jon Dough, had sex with 55 women in one day during the making of the film “The World’s Luckiest Man”?

Unbelievable, isn’t it? I mean, how many blokes do you know who could get it up and keep it up long enough to do that?

I’ve blogged about Penile Erectile Dysfunction before, but this time I want to talk about the ability to maintain an erection over a period of time that would allow you to have sex with more than one woman. I mean, as a swinger, that’s definitely a plus!

While everybody’s different and there are no rules as to what’s right or wrong, the ability to maintain and control and erection is something that most men are capable of, as long as they keep their bodies healthy.

Here are a few tips to help you on your way:

• Quit smoking, or at least cut right down. Smoking causes the blood vessels to narrow meaning that less blood can be pumped into the penis, a necessity if you’re going to stand any chance of a good, solid erection that has staying power.
• Get plenty of rest. Stress can lead to high blood pressure which again can lead to erection problems. Make sure you’re relaxed by having a regular sleep pattern and seeking out peaceful pastimes.
• Eat a healthy diet. This is important for the circulation which again is important for a lasting erection.
• Take regular exercise. Again, important for good circulation.

If you follow those tips and don’t have any underlying medical problems that could be the cause of your erection problems, you should soon be enjoying a lasting erection that will allow you to swing until your heart’s content.

Good luck.

Sadie xxx

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I must have one of those faces that attract people to open up to me because I’m forever having to dish out advice. And not only to friends, either. No, people who are almost strangers come up to me to ask for swinging advice. It doesn’t bother me, though - I’m generally more than happy to help where I can.

Just yesterday I had a lady approach me regarding her first experience of swinging with a couple that she and her other half had met through an online swingers site. They’d exchanged emails for a while and eventually arranged to meet at a restaurant for a meal and, after spending the evening together, decided they’d like to go ahead and meet in private. At this point, all was well.

Both couples booked into a Blackpool hotel for the Saturday night and Jennie (the lady who approached me) and her partner were very much looking forward to a sexy weekend.

The two couples had a drink in the bar — but not enough as to affect performance — before going up to one of the rooms to play. The first half an hour or so went well but when it came to putting a condom on the male of the other couple (we’ll call him David), as soon as he got it on, he went soft. Jennie blew him while her own husband and David’s wife enjoyed some intimate fun of their own, and he soon grew nice and hard again. Once again Jennie put a condom on him and once again he went soft.

To cut a long story short, David simply wasn’t able to sustain an erection as long as he was wearing a condom and Jennie, quite sensibly, wasn’t going to have sex without one. In the end she played with her husband while David’s partner sorted him out.

The reason I’m telling you this story is because it’s something I’ve personally come across and have also heard from others before. For some men, the feel of a condom on the penis is so uncomfortable that they lose their erection almost immediately but this is a problem that can be overcome with practise.

If you want to swing, you’re going to have to accept that a condom is part of the package and practise at home before you go out and meet others to play with. It may take a while but you’ll only get there if you persevere.

Good luck.

Sadie xxx

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When men are in a group play situation, one problem they often come up against is the one of premature ejaculation. The last thing they want to do is finish off before satisfying the lady they’re with.

The following is a list of tips that Malc’s given me and that should help men delay an oncoming ejaculation.

Tugging The Testes
As a man nears ejaculation his balls will move up closer to his body. By pulling them down and away from the body, ejaculation can be postponed.

Tip Squeeze
This one is only really useful if you’re either not penetrating the lady or are able to pull out. What you have to do is squeeze the penis just below the head until you feel your orgasm abating.

Pressure on The Perineum
The perineum is the area midway between your scrotum and your anus. By pressing the perineum you can put off ejaculation. It works because the perineum affects the prostate gland and it’s when the prostate contracts that seminal fluid’s ejected.

Breathe Easy
This one takes some practise but is very useful if you can master it. When you feel ejaculation is about to happen, concentrate on your sexuality as a whole rather than on the orgasm. Breathe slowly and deeply while you allow the orgasm to subside and ejaculation will be postponed.

So there you go. Four tips for keeping things going longer.

Sadie xxx

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Evidently there’s been some research into the way the amount of testosterone a man affects the way he reacts to the opposite sex and fatherhood.

Evidently, men who have low levels of testosterone are more likely to make good fathers who are highly involved in their children’s upbringing, whereas men with high levels are more likely to chase after ’skirt’.

Also, it’s said that those men with high levels of testosterone are more likely to make better fathers if they’re able to satisfy their lust for sex with several partners, so I’m wondering whether male swingers are perhaps generally those with high levels.

I’ve given some thought to the male swingers I know and while some of them are undoubtedly the kind of men who you’d describe as “blokes”, that certainly doesn’t go for all of them. Does that mean high testosterone levels don’t necessarily produce “men’s men” or does it mean that some male swingers have lower levels but aren’t family men?

I’m blowed if I know what it all means but you have to admit that it’s interesting

Sadie xx

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Sometime back I wrote a post about black dicks versus white dicks because I was sick and tired of hearing women say they believed the myth of black men having bigger todgers than white men.

Well now I have the facts so I intend to put an end to the argument, once and for all.

Average cock sizes when erect taken from the Norwegian swingers’ site, ErotikkNett.

White men = 15.6 cm
Black men = 16 cm
Asian men = 14 cm

So, what does that say? That black males have cocks that are, on average, 4 millimetres longer than white men. In case you’re not up on your metric measurements, take a look at a ruler and see just how much 4 millimetres is. Don’t have a ruler? Ok, well I’ll tell you. It’s not very much at all. About the thickness of a pound coin. Now I don’t know about you but that kind of difference makes absolutely no difference to me! I mean, you wouldn’t even feel it!

When it comes to Asian guys, two centimetres smaller than the average white man is… well, possibly more substantial than the difference between black and white but come on folks, isn’t it the way it’s used rather than size that matters? I know that sounds like an old cliché but it’s true. There’s no point being shagged by a bloke with a big donger if he thinks all he has to do is jab it in and out and you’ll be flying into orgasm within minutes, is there? I’d much rather have a guy with a smaller penis but who knows how to tease me with it, who knows when to go deep and when to keep it shallow. In other words, somebody who really will get me screaming for more.

So let’s give up the argument about size now, shall we? It’s not important and the black vs. white thing really is nothing but a myth.

Sadie xxx

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Are you one of those guys who’s worried that when it comes to the crunch, so to speak, you just won’t be able to get it up? If you are then believe me, you’re not alone.

There are methods of overcoming the problem though so if you’re having trouble with it, it’s worth giving them a go.

Relax
I know that’s easier said than done but honestly, if you can just relax and let whatever happens happen, you’ll stand a far better chance of actually getting it up.

Slow Down
There’s no rush is there? Take your time over foreplay and don’t think about penetration while you’re satisfying her with your fingers and tongue. If you do get it up, fair enough, use what you have to satisfy her too but it’s nothing to rush into.

Lower Your Expectations
Most men with performance anxiety have high expectations of their own performance. They expect to keep going until they’ve given their partner a dozen orgasms and then come simultaneously with her. Let’s be honest, this might happen all the time in porn films but this is real life and it seldom happens. Get real and lower those expectations.

Live in The Hear and Now
Men with performance anxiety often get distracted by thinking of everything that could go wrong instead of just enjoying what’s happening right now. By concentrating on what’s going on in the bed (or wherever you are) you won’t be able to worry so much and the chances of your getting it up will be much higher.

So there you are. I can’t guarantee they’ll work but anything worth a try, isn’t it?

Sadie xx

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If there’s one thing that male swingers dislike about sex in clubs it’s that they can’t have a snooze after they’ve cum.

Y’see, the fact that men have a tendency to fall asleep within five minutes of reaching the finishing line isn’t anything personal, it’s because the male orgasm releases prolactin which is also found in breast milk and is responsible for sending babies to sleep after their feed.

I suppose you could say this is just another piece of proof that men never really grow up but I really would have thought that swingers clubs would have cottoned on to this by now, especially as most of them are owned by men, and provided ‘rest rooms’ where guys could go for half an hour after sex. That way they’d be far more lively and ready for action again so more women would go home feeling satisfied.

Perhaps I should start a club of my own with comfy rest rooms for the men? I mean, the ladies won’t even notice they’re gone because we’re more than capable of entertaining each other while we’re waiting for their return

Sadie xx

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Ok guys, admit it, you love a woman to take care of her pubes don’t you? Even if she doesn’t remove them all, you still like her to keep them tidy, right? Well how about you? Isn’t it up to men to do the same to keep their women happy?

In my opinion, too many men just don’t care enough about their own pubes. Personally, I’d much rather go down on a guy who has a nice smooth shaft than one that has hairs halfway up it! Yuk!! And yet soooo many guys don’t care! Why is this? Do you think we like men that look like apes?

Let me tell you now, after doing my own personal survey amongst female friends from all age groups, the overall consensus is that men should shave! Some would like to see men take all their hair away but the majority just want them to tidy up. A little less length around the sack, and a smooth shaft please.

Is that really too much to ask for?

I don’t particularly like men who look like boys so prefer my men to keep some hair but a tidy up is a MUST.

I’ve written about the subject before — you can read it here — but it appears far too few of you have taken any notice.

Come on guys. Stop expecting of us what you’re not willing to give yourselves, eh?

Sadie xx

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I’ve always known that quite a few men use the services of prostitutes, not only because I’ve had friends who have had partners who have done it but because I have a friend who’s an escort and I know how busy she is, but that it was as high as 1 in 10 shocks me a bit.

That’s not a figure that’s been pulled out of a hat – it’s part of the results of a serious study of sexually transmitted diseases undertaken by the British Medical Journal.

Of those 1 in 10 men who pay for sex, half of them have used the services of prostitutes while abroad and 40% have use local services. Unbelievable, eh? Half while abroad? Is there something about travelling that makes men horny or what?

It’s not all bad though, because 58% of them have only ever done it once. I could forgive Malc one slip-up, but if he regularly used prostitutes and escorts then I’m afraid he’d soon be sending out change of address cards. Because 47% of those who have paid for sex have done while in a relationship, y’see.

I’ve no doubt there are a few people out there wondering why I would be bothered by this when I’m happy to let my other half go off to have sex with other women anyway, but believe me, what we do as swingers is something entirely different to him going behind my back and paying for a shag with our hard earned money!

It isn’t just about sex!

Sadie xx

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I had a swinging friend come to me for advice yesterday and her query was one that I think quite a few swingers probably have.

Her ‘problem’ was that she isn’t always in the mood for sex but, because she generally enjoys sex so much (and let’s face it, you have to be if you’re gonna join the swinging lifestyle) she worries that there’s something wrong with her, to the point where she was actually thinking she might even be bi-polar.

I assured her that she had absolutely no reason to worry - that I seriously doubt there’s a swinger alive who’s up for it 100% of the time and that women, especially, are likely to have strong variations in their sex drive.

I certainly don’t feel like it all of the time, and neither does Malc. In fact, that’s one of the reasons why we first decided we were happy to allow each other to swing alone, because that way we weren’t dependent on swinging only during the time when both of us were ‘up for it’.

Our energy levels change depending on how busy we’ve been, the demands on our work/families and how our hormones are acting. Some also say that biorhythms play a role although I have to admit to not knowing anything about that.

Anyway, the point is, don’t worry just because you don’t feel like swinging 100% of the time. There’s nothing wrong with you, you’re just being human.

Sadie xxx

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