So you fancy a nibble at the “forbidden fruit” do you? Join the club!

Thousands of couples and singles all over the UK enjoy swinging without ever having any problems with it, and by approaching the subject properly, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to join them.

What’s important is that you make sure your significant other doesn’t feel inadequate. You must let him or her know that your desire to try pastures new has nothing to do with their own sexual prowess, but that just like your favourite meal is steak and chips, it’s nice to have a Sunday roast or a kebab now and then.

When I first approached the subject with my other half he was suspicious. Why did I want to bed other men? And what was all this about wanting to try sex with other women?

I sat calmly answering his questions, doing my best to make sure he felt secure in the strength of other aspects of our relationship. I also told him that my desire to share sex with others, and sex is something totally different to lovemaking, was so strong that I wasn’t sure I’d be able to maintain a lifelong relationship with any one person without it. I meant what I said: if he couldn’t agree to swinging, we’d have to part. As much as I loved him, and still do, I know the strength of my sex drive and I knew that masturbating while fantasising wouldn’t cut it for much longer.

If your partner agrees to try, accept that ‘trying’ doesn’t mean commitment to a swinging lifestyle. But if swinging’s important to you, at least you’ll know one way or another and will be able to make some important choices about your future.

See you tomorrow xxx

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