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Never has doing the hoovering been as much fun! Well, I’m assuming that’s the case, anyway!

I haven’t actually tried this gadget yet but having seen a friend’s one, I just had to write about it. And believe me, I’ll be ordering my own VERY soon!

This nifty gadget is an attachment that you put on the end of your vacuum cleaner then place over your clitoris against the labia, and can be used on two different settings. The first setting is called The Introducer and gives stronger suction and less airflow, which will help you achieve longer and stronger orgasms. The second setting is The Seducer and is based on vibrating the clitoris through a high intensity airflow, resulting in faster orgasms. In other words, whether you have all the time in the world or need some quick satisfaction, the Vortex Vibrations Suction Vacuum Cleaner Vibrator is ideal.

The strength of the suction on your vacuum cleaner will also play a part in how you experience the orgasms. Most women are happy with a vac that runs on 600 watts whereas others prefer something stronger, going for 800 watts. I must check my cleaner – I’m sure it runs on 1000 watts minimum, which might just be a little too much even for me! Oh well… if that’s the case, it’s about time we got a new one.

Sadie xxx

Whoever said the only sex toys men need are their own hands and a porn mag? Maybe that’s ok for the less adventurous but there’s a whole world of fun to be had for those whose minds are open enough to explore other possibilities.

While I was looking for something new and fun to give Malc as a little gift, I came across Gaynor’s Goodies, an online sex toy site that has a huge collection of sex toys especially designed with men in mind, including cock rings, anal toys, vibrating vaginas, dolls, penis extenders, strap-ons, masturbators and some soft bondage toys.

My first port of call was on the page covering masturbators where I fell for the PortaMuff (click here and then scroll down the page). At under £15, I thought it made a lovely little gift for Malc to take with him on his business trips. After all, I wouldn’t want him feeling lonely and a fake pussy to wank into has to be more fun that the standard “five knuckle shuffle”.

I probably should have just gone to the check out there and then but I wanted to see what else the site had on offer. Just as well really, because I bought Malc a bottle of VULVA – a liquid that smells just like a woman’s vagina! Smear that on his PortaMuff and he’ll be well away, believe me!

I’d love to be a fly on the wall when he opens his presents (I’m packing them in his bag next time he goes away), or better still, when he uses them for the first time, but I’m sure I’ll be given the intimate details when he gets back.

Sadie xxx

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I’m getting dragged about this week! First Brighton last weekend and then Sunderland to spend a couple of nights with yet another of Malc’s old Uni friends! Still, I can’t complain, we had a whale of a time at Sunderland’s Club F.

Saturday’s the big party night and boy did that place rock! Twice a month they hold couples only nights (which we attended), otherwise singles are welcome although from what I’ve been told, Wednesdays and Fridays are the best nights for singles, especially as they have what they call “greedy girls” nights. Apparently those nights are especially for those single girls and female parts of a couple who like to enjoy more than one guy at a time. Sounds like my kind of night but unfortunately, work beckoned and we couldn’t stay in the North-East long enough to experience it.

I won’t pretend that Club F is the most luxurious swingers’ club I’ve visited but it had a friendly atmosphere and that goes a long way in my book. It was clean and comfortable, too.

The cost of entrance is reasonable – in fact, we paid £40 for our Saturday’s entertainment and that would have covered entrance for both of us on either the following Wednesday or Friday, too. Pity I couldn’t take advantage of it. Club F isn’t going anywhere, though, so maybe another time.

Sadie xx

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Malc and I went to Brighton for the weekend to meet up with a couple of his old friends, both of whom are transvestites. Both were born and bred in the North East and met Malc while at Uni but have settled in Brighton because they feel there’s more acceptance for trannies there than any other place they’ve been, apart from possibly Manchester’s Gay Village.

I can understand that. We met several of their friends and there’s no doubt that there’s a huge TV/TS community in the town with the famous sticks of rock and pebble beach, with plenty of TV friends bars, clubs and restaurants around.

Apparently most transgender people are heterosexual, a fact that sits well with my own experience of TVs who visit our swingers’ club. Rather than cross-dressing for sexual reasons, they do it because it makes them feel good – they like to express their feminine sides. Mind you, having said that, the couple we visited are most definitely gay, but they accept that they’re the exception rather than the rule. Some are also bi-sexual and could find themselves anywhere along the gender spectrum. One transvestite I spoke to described himself as a lesbian – a girl who likes girls. Yeah… that makes sense.

Brighton also has a support group for those who aren’t ready to cross-dress in public but who want to meet other likeminded people. The Clare Project is open to anybody who is, or thinks they may be, a transsexual or have any other kind of gender identity problem. They also arrange events from weekly swimming sessions to restaurant visits.

I think it’s fantastic that transvestites and transsexuals have A place where they can feel at home, whether its within the town itself, some of the bars etc or through the Clare Project.

If you’re TV friendly (and I’m sure you are), you might be interested in Press for Change, a political lobbying and educational organisation that campaigns to achieve equal civil rights and liberties for all trans people in the United Kingdom, through legislation and social change (that last bit copied from their website).

We’re supposed to live in a society of tolerance so it’s about time EVERYBODY, regardless of sexual preferences and the likes, had the same rights.

Sadie xx

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Apparently there’s been a lot of research put into the sex lives of older people and part of that research has been committed to discovering what helps older men keep their boats floating.

The results? The more physically active men over 50 are, the less likely they are to suffer from impotence. In fact, compared to men who take little or no exercise, men who keep fit stand a 30% better chance of keeping it up for the most crucial exercise of all.

The researchers say that moderate aerobic exercise is best (that’s the stuff that rhythmic and repetitive, like skipping, walking and swimming), and should be taken 3-5 times a week for between 30-45 minutes a day. You have to make sure you work up a bit of a light sweat, though, otherwise it’s pretty useless, at least when it comes to the boat float business.

It’s not just older guys, though. Younger men can also boost their sexual performance by ensuring they keep fit so it really is worth using that gym membership after all.

C’mon, guys. If you really want to keep the soldier marching, then get marching yourself.

Sadie xx

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Today is Norway’s national constitution day. People will be dressed in their finery, watching the children parade through the towns and villages and even the prostitutes might enjoy some cream cake and a few hours off!

Scandinavia has, to my mind, always been an area populated by free-thinking folk who understand that prohibition only sends things underground and generally makes a bad situation worse. They generally have an open mind to all things sexual and it’s said that Norway has more swingers per capita than any other European country.

Soooo, I was very surprised to learn that the Norwegian government are going to ban prostitution! What the hell are they thinking of? Prostitution’s been legal there for donkey’s years and while there’s obviously some problems attached to it – there always will be, no matter how we tackle it – making it illegal certainly isn’t going to help anybody, least of all the prostitutes themselves who will be sent underground and put in a far more vulnerable position!

To say that I’m disappointed is an understatement. I have many Norwegian swinger friends who Malc and I visit now and then (and who come over to visit us) and I’ve always had great respect for their country and lifestyle. I’m sad to think that things will now be changing for the worse.

Brass bands and national costumes there may well be today, but I think the prostitutes will probably have their minds elsewhere today, worrying about their future.

Sadie xxx

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I bet you do!

I’ve yet to meet a man who hasn’t fantasised about a threesome and a hell of a lot of women are turned on by the idea, too. The problem is, for most, that they don’t know how to go about finding somebody to join them, either a single if they’re already part of a couple or vice versa. And even when they find a website that has swingers advertising on it, they often don’t understand the terminology.

The first thing to remember is that you need to know beforehand exactly who you’re looking for. If, for example, your wife isn’t interested in sex with another woman, there’s little point in answering ads from bi-sexual women. Similarly, if you’re a bi-sexual guy, you’ll want to find ads placed by couples who are looking for somebody who will service them both.

It might well be worthwhile placing an ad of your own, too. That way you can make it clear exactly who you’re looking for, how far you can travel, whether you can accommodate, etc etc. By being as clear as possible, there’s far less chance of meeting others who, when it cums to it, aren’t actually suitable at all.

When it comes to the two main types of threesomes, remember the following:

FFM: this means two females and a male and is the most common type of threesome. In most cases the females will be bi so it’s probably safe to assume so if nothing else is mentioned. It’s always worth asking to be sure, though.

FMM: you’ve probably guessed that this one means one female and two men. Although not as common as FFM, it’s a whole lot of fun and well worth experimenting with. The guys don’t have to be bi and in these cases, if they are they probably WILL mention it. Even if you’re mostly into FFM, you’ll probably find that most women will be only too pleased to be serviced by two guys… and a lot of male partners enjoy watching their wives/partners being given a good seeing to.

If you think a threesome is something you’d seriously like to try, why not sign up at Adult Connexxxions – one of the biggest swingers dating sites I’ve found. I’ve used it on several occasions myself and haven’t been disappointed

Sadie xxx

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Remember I wrote about joining the Mile High Club, a few days ago? Well if you’re not quite ready to go the whole hog and have a shag in an aircraft loo, you might be more interested in owning a discreet vibrator that you can easily pop into your handbag or pocket and enjoy… well, just about anywhere that you manage to find a bit of privacy.

I have several such vibrators and wouldn’t be without one. Wherever I go, there’s one in my handbag because you just never know when the urge might raise its head and with a mini vibe to hand, you can have some fun in all sorts of places.

My favourite at the moment is actually called a Discretion Vibrator. It’s a lovely little smooth, silicone job that’s both beautiful and elegant to look at and nicely tapered for ease of insertion (not that I’ve ever had any trouble inserting a vibrator, you understand). It’s also waterproof, which is a great bonus if you’re taking it on holiday with you – who knows, you might just want to go for a late night dip in the sea

The Discretion Vibrator is available from BarbaraKelly Online Sex Shop, one of the best online retailers of sex toys I’ve seen for quite a while. The site’s beautifully designed, easy to use, and they have LOTS of sex toys to suit just about every mood. There are also a range of other small, discreet vibrators available and, in case your other half might need some quick satisfaction, the vibrating vaginas might make a nice gift for him.

Sadie xx

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We Brits have nothing to shout about when it comes to our lovemaking – apparently we make an average of 92 times a year while the Swiss bonk 123 times a year putting them right at the middle of the sex see-saw.

According to a recent global sex survey commissioned by Durex, the worldwide average is 103 so we’re even well below that! Jeez… isn’t it about time we starting getting our legs over more?

If you’re really randy and want to shag as much as possible, Greece is the place to head because passion runs hot amongst Greeks who have sex an average of 164 times a year! That’s some big time bonking!

If, on the other hand, you’re a bit shy when it comes to sex (err… excuse me, but why are you reading this blog?) then Japan’s the place for you. Go on… have a guess. How many times? Just 48 times a year! Blimey, how do they manage?

Strangely enough, Italians are behind the Swiss and so are the French. At least I know now what to say to Malc’s Italian friend next time he starts bragging!!

As far as we Brits are concerned, all we can be proud of is that we’re ahead of our US cousins. We have sex on average 7 times a year more often than they do! Weyhey!!

Sadie xx

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If you’re in the South-East and interested in joining a swinging party, it might well be worth giving “Just Couples” a whirl.

They party at a spacious club with extensive grounds that’s situated just outside of the M25 so accessible for most couples around London and the South-East.

Age, ethnic background and class mean nothing at “Just Couples” – all are equally as welcome as long as they’re happy to follow the rules and enjoy an exclusive night out.

Whether you like to hit the dance floor, relax in the sauna or jacuzzi, take a swim in the heated outside pool or just sit around and relax with either a soft drink from the bar or something harder you’ve brought along yourself, the atmosphere is always welcoming and comfortable.

And don’t worry if you’re just a little too far away to drive home, or would like to hit the heavy stuff rather than the soft drinks, because there are cabins and caravans available to hire. Malc and I spent a night in a cabin and, although it was small, it was certainly comfortable and after the evening’s activities, we weren’t really that fussed where we lay our heads down, if you get my drift.

Sadie xxx

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